Family amnesia is an appropriate term when things go wrong and you go into denial. Life goes on, the saying goes and no one shall speak the truth. But what happens with the people who know about it and have no one to talk to. It is a destroyer of ones ability to live honestly, but how much honesty is appropriate?

I believe damage comes from unspoken secrets. The damage is not always easily noticed immediately but can have lasting effects. It is amazing how secretive some families are. Is this just out of pride or insecurity? Family balances are delicate, so one rocking the boat can leave the family topside. The pressure is great and therefore no one breaks the code of silence.